Three young men after many years met at a pub during happy hours. Loud and enthusiastically they were exchanging their achievements. Couple of drinks down their throats their loudness came down and from joy and laughter there was now a sense of pain as they were discussing the hurt that was bothering them.
An elderly man across their table was observing them and understood the three have been subject to hurt and in pain now for many weeks, months and probably years after it happened. He picked a napkin and wrote “If you never heal from what hurt you, you will bleed on people who didn’t cut you” and sent it across to them. Each friend read it separately and one of them then addressed the old man, you are alone in happy hours here you seem hurt too, come join us.
The old man joins them and says, nobody can hurt me without my permission. Hurt you are but why suffer. I have known people being hurt in graver conditions and from their very dear ones. (parents, spouse, colleagues, friends, boss…) However in spite everything they went through it well as they choose love and found strength in it. My belief one does never know the power of self until someone hurts you badly. The first thing one normally does when hurt is to stop loving that person. We have got it all twisted; if you loved them why be hurt if it is just anybody why bother to get hurt.
The soulful love; when deeply loved by someone it gets you strength, loving someone deeply gives you courage. Where is room for hurt to then influence you? Rummi said “What hurts you, blesses you.
People take upon hurt as bitterness, bitterness moves on to anger; stretch it more relationship is lost. Do not let anger, hurt and pain embrace you it keeps you away from love. Sometimes just thinking about somebody and their something is good enough to hurt you all over again. Don’t you get it, you are being hurt because of your own expectations.
The maturity required when somebody hurts you; first try understanding their situation instead of reacting and hurting them back. Two forgiving can be your gift to the person who hurt you and moving on is the gift for yourself. Forgiveness as a thought takes place in one’s own mind and is about setting a prisoner free and that prisoner is you. How worthy is your love if one hurt can make the person you once loved become a stranger.
Hurt is disguised while exercising ones right, perhaps then fails to realise no matter how right one is one can also be a little too wrong. It is often said hurt me with the truth but never with lie, but that truth can be tough to accept - deep to wound and not all can handle it. Hurt treated with love has no suffering and earns its due apology and forgiveness with time.
Writing something on a paper the old man continued talking how in his early days he chooses pain to change and not be hurt. It was the healing ointment of spiritual wisdom which helped and his ignorance was dispelled. We hurt our creator by the seconds over many living opportunities and each time he forgives. Why fail to forgive when it’s your turn.
The old man handed the paper that read “recall those who hurt you & feel the power to wish well and continue to love them”. ‘Loving the hurt’…….. make a beginning now. Before the three could finish reading the note the old man was gone.
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